The art of being in a relationship is a seemingly complicated one. It has a lot to do with giving-not meaningless giving but rather unconditional. But the most interesting part of unconditional love is the word 'unconditional'.
Unconditional is with no conditions-no strings attached. There's no quid pro quo in a relationship-or rather there shouldn't be. But that's not how the human brain works. When one gives on expects. Although relationships are stated to be unconditional, it is quite contrary to the statement.
But what is being expected doesn't essentially match to that that is being given. If he gives her flowers, he does not expect flowers in return. If she gives baked goods, she does not expect baked goods in return. So if this so called 'relationship' is in essence conditional, then what is it that we expect to receive in return? It is that of Love.
When she makes you dinner, she wants you to love her back. When he takes you to a movie, he wants your love in return. When she gives you a massage after a long hard day, she wants you to show her you appreciate her. When he leaves his friends to accompany you, he wants you to acknowledge the fact that he did it because he loves you, so love him back.
This is a very simple fact that is more than often overlooked. Actually, it's how most relationships end. She may one day complain that she isn't feeling loved or appreciated, that she feels neglected. She'll then become bored of you and wander her mind over into someone else' heart. Then you're stuck with a broken heart and an empty list of ideas. You love her, no doubt, but how did you let this slip? How on earth did you not see this coming? You figured everything was just swell and dandy and she was yours and you were hers. You thought this relationship would surely never bore itself out and that she'd surely become your wife. But you thought wrong.
When she's gone, you realize how blind you were. You replay moments that have passed and analyze them in a woman's point of view. Remember that day she wore that really nice outfit that made her look like a goddess? Damn, you should have told her she was beautiful. Remember when she threw her ego aside and allowed you to win in a petty argument even though you knew you were wrong? Damn, you should have told her she was right. Remember when she asked you to run some errands for her but you kept putting it off and it never got done? Damn, you should have taken a quick minute out of your day to do that for her. Remember when she took you to the hospital when you were sick? Damn, you should have thanked her for that.
All these little moments will replay in your head and you'll probably pull a muscle kicking yourself. Then you'll start to realize what you really had. A smart and charming woman who wasn't afraid to speak her mind and truly stood for what she believed in. She had a laugh that could be heard for miles and a smile that would stop men in their tracks. Her eyes seemed to sparkle every time she blinked. Words coming out of her mouth were like humming birds floating ever so lightly in the air yet with pounds of intelligence that commanded respect. She had a huge heart and always put others before herself. She was your one and you let her slide.
So it comes down to the simple idea of loving another and being loved in return. Don't fail to notice that acts of giving that you are receiving. Don't neglect to love those who love you. You never know what you've really got until it's gone.
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